Thursday, June 19, 2008

They Might be Blind, But We're the Ones Who Cant See

Im reading a book right now in which a girl is in a horrible car accident that leaves her blind and motherless. Shes an artist by profession so used to seeing things that its devastating for her to have to start over and give up her passion of art. She's been so spoiled by relying on her eyes as her major sense that she's taken by surprise when she realizes what she's been missing out on by never using any of her other senses. Its very interesting to see her growth. In her hospital bed, her sense of smell immediately clues her in to who is around her -- she says she knows who is standing next to her based on their perfume.

At home, when she comes into a conversation, she hears a sudden change in tone between how someone speaks to her versus her father. She says she hears disdain as if she interrupted an important, private conversation and she wonders to herself why she never picked up on people's tones before. When she meets a student at the School for the Blind, she strikes up a conversation with them not ever knowing how they look physically, whether they are of a different race, elderly or middle-aged.

Despite its obvious merits, seeing isnt everything.

How many times do we refrain from walking up to someone based on how they look, what they're driving, where they live, or what they do for a living? Its runs deeper than just passing judgment. For whatever reason, sometimes we hold back... we cop out on going further. We admire from afar and run and hide from people/issues/things that challenge our thinking or cause us to shift from the norm. If Allah (swt) has the ability to see us all equally, how special are the blind who see people for who they really are? How humbling of an experience would it be to let go of inhibitions and walk through doors blindly that you couldn't see existed before?

The truth is we can do that now, with our sight intact, Alhamdullilah. On the train home I stop reading, and close my eyes. I cant see anything: no bling, no Armani suits, no incredible smiles, no high cheekbones, no religious adornments, nothing. Then, slowly, I become aware of my surroundings. I hear the obvious sounds: coughing, sighing, laughing, talking, etc. Then, I begin to hear emotions: irritation/annoyance, relaxation, anxiety, contentment. Its a mix of a hearing and feeling, actually. I can feel a stop coming way before its announced -- not just because the train begins to slow down but before that people start to gather their things. The temperature rises. Moving people give off heat. There is an awkward excitement -- and I say awkward because its only Philly after all, not Disney World! Its more of a hustle and bustle. The lady next to me touches my shoulder to alert me of her intended departure. I figure she thinks I'd fallen asleep.

The best of Allah (swt)'s lessons come from forcing us to learn or accept something we thought we were incapable or too weak to deal with. He (swt) doesn't test you with material He (swt) knows you won't pass. Perhaps we should make full use of all our senses before He (swt) decides to take one or more away from us. Id rather not give Him (swt) the idea that Im ungrateful and ignorant of such a pleasant and important gift.

When will you start seeing?

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Where Am I???

It feels sooo weird to be blogging again. Havent done this in awhile. Well, I havent published any of my writings so far -- been using my blog space for my book chapters and random rants too risque to be seen or read by ANYONE!

I cant believe summer is almost here -- well, officially June 21st that is -- heat-wise I'd say its been here for awhile now. Ok -- enough about the weather -- I already have someone calling me specifically for the extended forecast every other night :)...

After work today I decided to take a short trip and check out a grocery store in a nearby town, Wegman's, recommended to me by a co-worker specifically for its seafood. I remembered seeing it on my way to another place about two months back but decided to drive there cold without any directions.

BIG MISTAKE!!!!

Now, normally, for the most part Im good with finding my way around -- ITS PHILLY FOR GOD'S SAKE NOT THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE!!! -- so getting to Wegmans was fine. I was really proud of myself for remembering where it was, etc. Getting back? Not so easy.

Too many numbers to keep track of -- 132....202...30....339...76....476.. 786??

Ordinarily driving is one of my guilty pleasures -- even more guilty due to todays rising price of gas -- however there are some times, like being completely lost, that driving drives me nuts! I honestly dont know how I got so twisted around. I made ONE wrong turn -- ONE bad decision and realized the hard way that there was no illegal u-turn or take-the-next-exit-and-come-back-the-opposite-direction trick out of the situation. And yes I am too damn proud to ask for directions. Its a freakkkin waste of time to stop....explain....listen...forget.....and end up even more lost. Oh! And somehow the times I have stopped to ask for directions the people I ask are ALWAYS FROM OUT OF TOWN! Sureeee they are -- who visits Bumfuck, PA on a Tuesday in the third week of Feb???

I ended up on the PA turnpike going south ------------ wayyyyyyyyyy south. Pride is very large pill to swallow -- UNLESS WHEN YOU HAVE TO PEE. My bladder happens to be the size of a pistaccio, distended! I had to stop and ask a man standing at the gas station.

Me: Excuse me, sir!!!! Im utterly completely stupidly lost -- I have no idea where I am. Can you tell me how to get back to __________??
(Note: Its not easy asking for directions to where I live since where I live has about gazillion different zip codes and is referred to as the Greater Philadelphia area in which no one has heard of my streets and I have to ask to be pointed in the general direction of a NEIGHBORING TOWN!)

Man (blows a whistle...scratches his head): You're a ways away...
Me: Um, where exactly am I?
Man: Devon (He said it like it was Beverly Hills or something and EVERYONE knew where it was!)
Me: Oh...is that in Philly?
Man (laughs and then realizes Im serious): Ahh, no... You're in Chester County beautiful!

DUDE! Chester County is like south south south like almost to DE south -- ok not that far but might as well be!

He ended up giving me perfect directions to put me back on the straight path home. It took me an hour and some to finally reach home.

...so much for a short trip!