"If you don't understand how a woman could both love her sister dearly and want to wring her neck at the same time, then you were probably an only child." - Linda Sunshine
This is probably the best way to describe how my sisters felt about me yesterday. I am so not used to being accountable to anyone for my whereabouts, but ever since my dad has been living with me I feel as if I have to let him know. But I still dont. I just dont remember. So yesterday I was using Pa's cellphone while travelling, leaving him with only his Blackberry (I dont have long distance on my apartment phone). He had no way of getting a hold of me, but my sisters did. And boy did they try. Out shopping with Noreen's parents, we took their vehicle, and my phone was in my car. At Noreen's house for dinner I left the phone out in my car. It dawned on me as I was leaving after 1am. I looked at the phone and noticed 15 missed calls between the two of them since 10pm., thats not mentioning the infinite number of calls I missed during the day.
...and I know what happend: Pa is always on the computer for work, and since his cable isnt hooked up yet he's using dial-up meaning it ties up the line. I had his cell, he doesnt use his Blackberry for anything but work. So he wasnt able to be reached. I wasnt picking up my phone, Im sure my sisters panicked knowing I was en route to somewhere.
Now, thats one scenario. Scenario number 2: my dad emailed them to track me down. Yelling at them over all those things he couldnt say to me. They took the heat, because I wasnt around.
This morning I saw my dad and he said absolutely nothing to me except, "Oh, you came in late last night." Thats it. No yelling, no lecture, no guilt-trip. My sisters saved me from a verbal lashing.
... I owe them? ARe you CRAZY!? Who do you think's got their back?
I always tell my parents.. "YOU'RE MAD AT (ENTER SISTER'S NAME HERE)!! GO TELL HER! WHY ARE YOU YELLING AT ME????" And they always say, "We do. We do tell (ENTER SISTERS NAME HERE) also when we're angry."
Prime example. They never do.
Now neither sister is speaking to me. But its all good, cuz next time will be my turn to take the heat from something they do.
Monday, July 31, 2006
Diversity/Equilibrium and Intent to Intend
It was a normal weekend, but somehow I feel as if I was on vacation. Ok, I suppose I feel as if I were on vacation because I spent Fri/Saturday with my cousin and his family who are visiting from the Mother land. We did DC on Saturday, YES, in heat hotter than hell on its hottest day. I had never, ever driven into DC before Saturday and I suppose I never ever will again! Crazy, crazy drivers.
Sunday I was supposed to meet in Jersey for a CAMP meeting, but we thought it best for me not to attend on the basis of a 4 hr drive one way. iA I will get the jist of the meeting on a conference call and be able to iron out last week details still. So instead I went to visit Noreen's parents in Bmore. Auntie is making my outfit for the Gala so she needed a shirt from me for size. Being in Baltimore and so close to one of my favorite malls which I had not been to in 10 years, I decided to look for the "accessories" to my outfit: shoes, dupatta, chemise, etc. I spent the day shopping with Uncle and Auntie, learning about sales and quality, but not before having some wisdom passed down to me. See, when your own parents tell you something good, its called a lecture. When someone else's parents tell you something good, its wisdom.
Uncle has some really fantastic theories on human behavior and interaction and life in general. One such theory being about diversity. He simply stated diversity is the state of equilibrium, a point when the net result is zero. Diversity is needed for balance. As charged particles we each give off our own force. When forces are balanced, there is harmony. A radical person, much like radical particles, are those whose charges are left unopposed.
Neat, na?
As I was suppressing the urge to take out my pen and paper, Auntie was pouring me another cup of chai. Another topic was marriage and gender roles, not in a misogynistic way, but in essence to depict the mere difference between male and female thinking: Females, of course being a more emotional animal, and males being more practical. He said that the main feature to look for is education. He's right. But thats not the whole truth. There are some educated people amongst us who do not know the ways of society and how to interact, what to say and when not to say it, or basically the finesse involved in arguing and making sure your point is heard. Its all about up-bringing, traditions, values, integrity, education, tolerance, acceptance, and respect.
After I left I was invited for dinner at Norim's house (Noreen and Jim). They had a very special guest over: Imam Bashar with family. I have been keen on meeting him for the past three years, the feeling was mutual :) , and so I finally had the opportunity. He's a Syrian Imam who is extremely knowledgable about Islam and he has a certain manner of speaking that makes you wish to hear more instead of the regular screaming and blaming privy to some Imams/Sheikhs.
Jim and Noreen, iA this December, are going for Hajj and they asked him for guidance. He talked about intention, niyat. According to hadith, on the Day of Judgement people will find things listed in their book of deeds things they had never done. It is all about intention, should you have had the means, then you would have done so accordingly. Also, he said that a man accustomed to praying Tahajud who suddenly finds himself ill and incapable of praying he will, iA, still get the reward and blessings as if he continues to pray. He mentioned the importance of dhikar as the ways and means of connecting with Allah (swt). Its like calling someone and gettign a busy signal; you keep trying. Eventually, you make the connection switch from dial-up to broadband and you are in touch with the spirit of Allah (swt) and then at that point He gives you blessings for that which you have not even prayed for yet, just because of the close relationship.
In closing he did say that the most important thing to remember is the beauty of being created human. We could have been something else, but we were created an animal of higher thought and intellectual capacity. He said that on the Day of Judgement two animals will fight each other. One killing the other first, then after being resurrected, the other killing the first. They will be turned to dust afterwards. Because they will not be judged. On the Day of Judgement, non-believers will wish they are dust.
It was a beautiful meeting and the perfect way to end my weekend. I learned a lot, Allhamdullilah, and iA I hope I will be able to make it out to some of his lectures.
Sunday I was supposed to meet in Jersey for a CAMP meeting, but we thought it best for me not to attend on the basis of a 4 hr drive one way. iA I will get the jist of the meeting on a conference call and be able to iron out last week details still. So instead I went to visit Noreen's parents in Bmore. Auntie is making my outfit for the Gala so she needed a shirt from me for size. Being in Baltimore and so close to one of my favorite malls which I had not been to in 10 years, I decided to look for the "accessories" to my outfit: shoes, dupatta, chemise, etc. I spent the day shopping with Uncle and Auntie, learning about sales and quality, but not before having some wisdom passed down to me. See, when your own parents tell you something good, its called a lecture. When someone else's parents tell you something good, its wisdom.
Uncle has some really fantastic theories on human behavior and interaction and life in general. One such theory being about diversity. He simply stated diversity is the state of equilibrium, a point when the net result is zero. Diversity is needed for balance. As charged particles we each give off our own force. When forces are balanced, there is harmony. A radical person, much like radical particles, are those whose charges are left unopposed.
Neat, na?
As I was suppressing the urge to take out my pen and paper, Auntie was pouring me another cup of chai. Another topic was marriage and gender roles, not in a misogynistic way, but in essence to depict the mere difference between male and female thinking: Females, of course being a more emotional animal, and males being more practical. He said that the main feature to look for is education. He's right. But thats not the whole truth. There are some educated people amongst us who do not know the ways of society and how to interact, what to say and when not to say it, or basically the finesse involved in arguing and making sure your point is heard. Its all about up-bringing, traditions, values, integrity, education, tolerance, acceptance, and respect.
After I left I was invited for dinner at Norim's house (Noreen and Jim). They had a very special guest over: Imam Bashar with family. I have been keen on meeting him for the past three years, the feeling was mutual :) , and so I finally had the opportunity. He's a Syrian Imam who is extremely knowledgable about Islam and he has a certain manner of speaking that makes you wish to hear more instead of the regular screaming and blaming privy to some Imams/Sheikhs.
Jim and Noreen, iA this December, are going for Hajj and they asked him for guidance. He talked about intention, niyat. According to hadith, on the Day of Judgement people will find things listed in their book of deeds things they had never done. It is all about intention, should you have had the means, then you would have done so accordingly. Also, he said that a man accustomed to praying Tahajud who suddenly finds himself ill and incapable of praying he will, iA, still get the reward and blessings as if he continues to pray. He mentioned the importance of dhikar as the ways and means of connecting with Allah (swt). Its like calling someone and gettign a busy signal; you keep trying. Eventually, you make the connection switch from dial-up to broadband and you are in touch with the spirit of Allah (swt) and then at that point He gives you blessings for that which you have not even prayed for yet, just because of the close relationship.
In closing he did say that the most important thing to remember is the beauty of being created human. We could have been something else, but we were created an animal of higher thought and intellectual capacity. He said that on the Day of Judgement two animals will fight each other. One killing the other first, then after being resurrected, the other killing the first. They will be turned to dust afterwards. Because they will not be judged. On the Day of Judgement, non-believers will wish they are dust.
It was a beautiful meeting and the perfect way to end my weekend. I learned a lot, Allhamdullilah, and iA I hope I will be able to make it out to some of his lectures.
Friday, July 28, 2006
Sparks
"Sparks are mutual. You will know it when you feel it. I've only felt sparks twice in my life, ever. One I married, the other I avoid." - Whitey from the Lab.
Sparks, huh?
spark1 ( P )
An incandescent particle, especially:
One thrown off from a burning substance.
One resulting from friction.
One remaining in an otherwise extinguished fire; an ember.
A glistening particle, as of metal.
A flash of light, especially a flash produced by electric discharge.
A short pulse or flow of electric current.
A trace or suggestion, as:
A quality or feeling with latent potential; a seed or germ: the spark of genius.
A vital, animating, or activating factor: the spark of revolution.
may sometimes be confused with butterflies. :)
Sparks, huh?
spark1 ( P )
An incandescent particle, especially:
One thrown off from a burning substance.
One resulting from friction.
One remaining in an otherwise extinguished fire; an ember.
A glistening particle, as of metal.
A flash of light, especially a flash produced by electric discharge.
A short pulse or flow of electric current.
A trace or suggestion, as:
A quality or feeling with latent potential; a seed or germ: the spark of genius.
A vital, animating, or activating factor: the spark of revolution.
may sometimes be confused with butterflies. :)
Is honesty really the best policy?
I had an epiphany last night as I lay on my couch starring up at my living room ceiling watching a small spider spin a web. How honest am I with myself? How big is the web of lies I have spun? I always and forever have thought that you can lie to the world but you cannot lie to yourself. But in reality, lying to yourself is better known as denial. And when put like that, it makes sense: People lie to themselves everyday. They carry on a facade of ecstacy and they dig a tunnel so deep that suddenly they become disoriented and don't know which way is up and out.
Every rishta, every relationship I have had in the past I have suppressed my inner feelings and thoughts. Desi culture puts an embargo on our hearts from ever expressing our true feelings. But is desi culture really to blame here? I may be born and raised here, but I still have a Pakistani heritage. There are traditions and values that are certainly tattooed on me that will never change, right? On the flip side, being raised in America has also left its mark. There are things about me and my thinking that clashes with Eastern culture. Growing up was always a struggle trying to get my father to accept my 'radical' thinking. Or was it a struggle because I was trying to accept myself? If even tattoos can be laserly removed, then change is imminent.
There are things that I have to learn to accept about myself and my personality that I cannot change or suppress. It is a lot easier thinking someone judged you for your looks, though it may seem harsh at first, than to take the time and do some soul searching (And no I dont mean as in, do I have one or not!) and realize they liked you better when you were uninhibited.
The sad thing is that as long as we live in a society amongst desis hell bent on keeping the double standard alive, no one will ever be honest, no one will ever show their true identity (wouldnt it just be easy if Spiderman didnt have to hide who he really was?).
I, however, am better than that and will rise above the illusion of a perfect world, and admit to myself that something's got to give. ABCDs for the longest time have been stereotyped for being confused, neither here nor there, but honestly, we come out on top because we have the luxury of being able to be water and flow through different cultures, traditions, and languages with ease. We have the ability to see the world for what it is and still like it (thats the American in us). We're not fooling anybody and trying to blend amongst the rest (like immigrants coming to America, or Americans going abroad). We're trying to find ourselves. And we won't do it unless we come clean with ourselves and recognize who we are. We wont do it until we accept that we are different from the rest, and that different is not a bad thing. We are not Pakistani. We are not American. We're the best of both worlds. We can have it all if we want. But to do that, we must first be honest.
I must be honest with myself and realize what I want may not be entirely what society will condone and may possibly frown upon a single girl single for a minute longer than she has to be. People fear the unknown, and most desis would rather not have a woman realize her own strength. But I cannot let my fears of being an outcast in society condemn me to a life of eternal misery. I'd rather have people respect me as a single woman sure in her skin and ready to tackle anything that comes her way.
Every rishta, every relationship I have had in the past I have suppressed my inner feelings and thoughts. Desi culture puts an embargo on our hearts from ever expressing our true feelings. But is desi culture really to blame here? I may be born and raised here, but I still have a Pakistani heritage. There are traditions and values that are certainly tattooed on me that will never change, right? On the flip side, being raised in America has also left its mark. There are things about me and my thinking that clashes with Eastern culture. Growing up was always a struggle trying to get my father to accept my 'radical' thinking. Or was it a struggle because I was trying to accept myself? If even tattoos can be laserly removed, then change is imminent.
There are things that I have to learn to accept about myself and my personality that I cannot change or suppress. It is a lot easier thinking someone judged you for your looks, though it may seem harsh at first, than to take the time and do some soul searching (And no I dont mean as in, do I have one or not!) and realize they liked you better when you were uninhibited.
The sad thing is that as long as we live in a society amongst desis hell bent on keeping the double standard alive, no one will ever be honest, no one will ever show their true identity (wouldnt it just be easy if Spiderman didnt have to hide who he really was?).
I, however, am better than that and will rise above the illusion of a perfect world, and admit to myself that something's got to give. ABCDs for the longest time have been stereotyped for being confused, neither here nor there, but honestly, we come out on top because we have the luxury of being able to be water and flow through different cultures, traditions, and languages with ease. We have the ability to see the world for what it is and still like it (thats the American in us). We're not fooling anybody and trying to blend amongst the rest (like immigrants coming to America, or Americans going abroad). We're trying to find ourselves. And we won't do it unless we come clean with ourselves and recognize who we are. We wont do it until we accept that we are different from the rest, and that different is not a bad thing. We are not Pakistani. We are not American. We're the best of both worlds. We can have it all if we want. But to do that, we must first be honest.
I must be honest with myself and realize what I want may not be entirely what society will condone and may possibly frown upon a single girl single for a minute longer than she has to be. People fear the unknown, and most desis would rather not have a woman realize her own strength. But I cannot let my fears of being an outcast in society condemn me to a life of eternal misery. I'd rather have people respect me as a single woman sure in her skin and ready to tackle anything that comes her way.
Thursday, July 27, 2006
Boredom
Sannia [4:44 P.M.]: whats ur blog thing im bored
Farah979 [4:44 P.M.]: hhahah
Farah979 [4:44 P.M.]: thanks
Ouch.
I dont care why people read it, just that they read it. The hits counter keeps going up so I know its not my imagination. Now if I could just get people to throw down some comments....
Farah979 [4:44 P.M.]: hhahah
Farah979 [4:44 P.M.]: thanks
Ouch.
I dont care why people read it, just that they read it. The hits counter keeps going up so I know its not my imagination. Now if I could just get people to throw down some comments....
Allah made her funny, too :P
2:57 PM Muna: sorry dude.. i saw like 10 ants on my desk.. had to kill them all.. and then find how they got in..
me: LOLOL
Muna: this bug thing is getting crazy.. im going to have a pull an israel.. i'll be back.. can i call you later tonight?
me: YEAH, iA talk to you then AH
Muna: salaams.
me: pull an israel haha ws
2:58 PM Muna: well.. not quite.. cuz this is justified.. these ants are "occupying my space" .. i have to kill them before they kill me.. i guess it's more of a "pre-emptive strike".. does that make me pulling a bush? hmmmm.. i will have to think about this.. ttyl.. xoxo
me: ahahahahah mwahs!
me: LOLOL
Muna: this bug thing is getting crazy.. im going to have a pull an israel.. i'll be back.. can i call you later tonight?
me: YEAH, iA talk to you then AH
Muna: salaams.
me: pull an israel haha ws
2:58 PM Muna: well.. not quite.. cuz this is justified.. these ants are "occupying my space" .. i have to kill them before they kill me.. i guess it's more of a "pre-emptive strike".. does that make me pulling a bush? hmmmm.. i will have to think about this.. ttyl.. xoxo
me: ahahahahah mwahs!
Now you know...
(microscopes are our friends) Cytotechnologists are specially trained individuals who are responsible for detecting small changes or abnormalities in cells. Their work is critical in the early detection and diagnosis of cancers and other diseases. They examine samples under a microscope, studying the slides for minute abnormalities in a cell's shape, color, or size. These findings are usually the first warning signs of cancer and are used to indicate whether it is benign or malignant. Cytotechnologists usually work under the direction of a clinical pathologist who is responsible for any final diagnosis. These cellular samples may be obtained from various bodily structures, such as the lungs, breast, liver, thyroid, the oral cavity, the female reproductive tract, or any body cavity that sheds cells. Examination of Pap smears continues to be a major role for cytotechnologists. Cytotechnologists are also responsible for detecting abnormal hormone conditions and other pathological disease processes, which can have an adverse affect on a patient's health. Anyone interested in this highly technical field should be a responsible decision-maker and an efficient problem solver.
Work Environment:
Cytotechnologists usually work in hospitals, clinics, and private laboratories. Other places of employment are research laboratories, educational institutions, and government facilities.
Human Papillomavirus Effect - Low Grade, Histology
High Grade Lesion/Cervical Cancer
Breast, Lobular Carcinoma (in situ)
Late to bed, early to rise... What would Ben say to that?
I wish I had an exciting life and could come to work the next morning and tell you all about the people I met, places I'd seen, etc.
But alas, I dont. Last night was pretty uneventful. Left work late, went home, ran on my treadmill, then laid down and stared at my living room ceiling. Then it occured to me: I'm really going to miss my apartment. It's a really nice apartment, 2 bedrooms, kitchen, bathroom, living room, dining room, 1000 sq ft. I wont find an apartment like this in Philly. Oh yeah, the Ben Franklin House deal fell through: Im not fond of cats. Plus I really wasnt fond of paying $1100 to live in a place smaller than a cardboard box.
At this point, Im re-thinking the idea of jumping into a lease. I think its wise for me to test my new job out and see if I really like it. Until then, I suppose I could accept the offer of staying with my elder sister in DE. I'd have to drive to Wilmington, hop on the R1, and take it straight into Center City. The plus point of all that, of course, are the two munchkins Idrees and Fatima.
Today is my Khala's birthday... the BIG 6-0 (Dont tell her I said so) It doesnt matter though, she doesnt look it at all. It's a Sheikh thing. My mom and her sisters are truly the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Strong confident women who walk with their heads held high. Who wouldnt, coming from their background? I wished her a happy birhtday and totally made her day... my good deed for today. (now I can be mean MUAHAHAH AHAHA HAHAH... why does my evil laugh always sound like the Count's???) I didnt like him when I was little... he scared me. He scared me, and I thought Oscar was too mean. Oscar was too mean and Telly was too silly. Telly was too silly and Snuffleapagus put me to sleep when he spoke. Oh, and Big Bird was A-N-N-O-Y-I-N-G!
I cant believe I used to watch that. I shall go now, and hide my head in shame.
But alas, I dont. Last night was pretty uneventful. Left work late, went home, ran on my treadmill, then laid down and stared at my living room ceiling. Then it occured to me: I'm really going to miss my apartment. It's a really nice apartment, 2 bedrooms, kitchen, bathroom, living room, dining room, 1000 sq ft. I wont find an apartment like this in Philly. Oh yeah, the Ben Franklin House deal fell through: Im not fond of cats. Plus I really wasnt fond of paying $1100 to live in a place smaller than a cardboard box.
At this point, Im re-thinking the idea of jumping into a lease. I think its wise for me to test my new job out and see if I really like it. Until then, I suppose I could accept the offer of staying with my elder sister in DE. I'd have to drive to Wilmington, hop on the R1, and take it straight into Center City. The plus point of all that, of course, are the two munchkins Idrees and Fatima.
Today is my Khala's birthday... the BIG 6-0 (Dont tell her I said so) It doesnt matter though, she doesnt look it at all. It's a Sheikh thing. My mom and her sisters are truly the most beautiful women I have ever seen. Strong confident women who walk with their heads held high. Who wouldnt, coming from their background? I wished her a happy birhtday and totally made her day... my good deed for today. (now I can be mean MUAHAHAH AHAHA HAHAH... why does my evil laugh always sound like the Count's???) I didnt like him when I was little... he scared me. He scared me, and I thought Oscar was too mean. Oscar was too mean and Telly was too silly. Telly was too silly and Snuffleapagus put me to sleep when he spoke. Oh, and Big Bird was A-N-N-O-Y-I-N-G!
I cant believe I used to watch that. I shall go now, and hide my head in shame.
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
~*~My 100th Post~*~ yayy me!
Auto Response from Farah979(3:23:54 PM): So.. when are you getting married?
towson14(3:24:20 PM): as soon as she finishes high school
Farah979 (3:24:39 PM): 6 more yrs
towson14 (3:24:58 PM): do i have anyother options?
Farah979 (3:25:15 PM): sucks to be you
_____________________________________________________
towson14 (3:27:39 PM): why does everything have be around marriage
Farah979 (3:27:52 PM): cuz our convos are
Farah979 (3:27:56 PM): u start them
towson14 (3:28:03 PM): i am gonna stop
towson14 (3:28:30 PM): i don't want my future wife to be made fun of
towson14 (3:28:58 PM): what if she read this
towson14 (3:29:06 PM): and decided not to marry me
towson14 (3:30:09 PM): and it feels so good to talk to myself
Farah979 (3:30:14 PM): haha, sorry
Farah979 (3:30:26 PM): dont worry. she cant read
towson14 (3:30:37 PM): yea, you got rights
towson14 (3:30:43 PM): she can't read at all
Farah979 (3:30:45 PM): no
Farah979 (3:30:52 PM): shes ungoota chaap
towson14 (3:31:07 PM): so what's happening?
Farah979 (3:31:22 PM): not much
Farah979 (3:31:23 PM): just work
towson14 (3:31:36 PM): still looking after the frogs?
Farah979 (3:31:44 PM): lol
Farah979 (3:31:50 PM): kissing every one i see
towson14 (3:32:12 PM): maybe one day you'll get a price outta one
towson14 (3:32:15 PM): prince*
Farah979 (3:32:21 PM): iA
towson14 (3:32:25 PM): iA
Farah979 (3:32:31 PM): but im having fun kissin' frogs for now ahahaha
Farah979 (3:32:39 PM): im joking
Farah979 (3:32:40 PM): really
towson14 (3:32:41 PM): in that case
Farah979 (3:32:48 PM): DONT SAY IT
towson14 (3:32:53 PM): oh man
towson14 (3:32:55 PM): why???
Farah979 (3:32:57 PM): lol
Farah979 (3:32:59 PM): b/c yaar
Farah979 (3:33:01 PM): just dont
towson14 (3:33:18 PM): cool
towson14(3:24:20 PM): as soon as she finishes high school
Farah979 (3:24:39 PM): 6 more yrs
towson14 (3:24:58 PM): do i have anyother options?
Farah979 (3:25:15 PM): sucks to be you
_____________________________________________________
towson14 (3:27:39 PM): why does everything have be around marriage
Farah979 (3:27:52 PM): cuz our convos are
Farah979 (3:27:56 PM): u start them
towson14 (3:28:03 PM): i am gonna stop
towson14 (3:28:30 PM): i don't want my future wife to be made fun of
towson14 (3:28:58 PM): what if she read this
towson14 (3:29:06 PM): and decided not to marry me
towson14 (3:30:09 PM): and it feels so good to talk to myself
Farah979 (3:30:14 PM): haha, sorry
Farah979 (3:30:26 PM): dont worry. she cant read
towson14 (3:30:37 PM): yea, you got rights
towson14 (3:30:43 PM): she can't read at all
Farah979 (3:30:45 PM): no
Farah979 (3:30:52 PM): shes ungoota chaap
towson14 (3:31:07 PM): so what's happening?
Farah979 (3:31:22 PM): not much
Farah979 (3:31:23 PM): just work
towson14 (3:31:36 PM): still looking after the frogs?
Farah979 (3:31:44 PM): lol
Farah979 (3:31:50 PM): kissing every one i see
towson14 (3:32:12 PM): maybe one day you'll get a price outta one
towson14 (3:32:15 PM): prince*
Farah979 (3:32:21 PM): iA
towson14 (3:32:25 PM): iA
Farah979 (3:32:31 PM): but im having fun kissin' frogs for now ahahaha
Farah979 (3:32:39 PM): im joking
Farah979 (3:32:40 PM): really
towson14 (3:32:41 PM): in that case
Farah979 (3:32:48 PM): DONT SAY IT
towson14 (3:32:53 PM): oh man
towson14 (3:32:55 PM): why???
Farah979 (3:32:57 PM): lol
Farah979 (3:32:59 PM): b/c yaar
Farah979 (3:33:01 PM): just dont
towson14 (3:33:18 PM): cool
Wisdom
That person is nearest to God, who pardons him who would have injured him.
- Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
Righteousness is good morality, and wrongdoing is that which waivers in your soul and which you dislike people finding out about.
- An-Nawawi’s “Forty Hadith,” Hadith 27
Happy is the man who avoids dissension, but how fine is the man who is afflicted and shows endurance.
- Sunah of Abu Dawood, Hadith 1996
- Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
Righteousness is good morality, and wrongdoing is that which waivers in your soul and which you dislike people finding out about.
- An-Nawawi’s “Forty Hadith,” Hadith 27
Happy is the man who avoids dissension, but how fine is the man who is afflicted and shows endurance.
- Sunah of Abu Dawood, Hadith 1996
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
Farah who?
So someone asked me who Farah Pahlavi was and so I did a little research on my own. I didnt even know what she looked like, so I googled girlfriend and was in complete awe. She's very beautiful, mA. I was named after her, but I doubt it was for any sort of resemblence at the age of...? (I dont know how old I was, in minutes, when my parents named me)
So I checked through my pics to come across any with a semi/sort of/its-a-stretch resemblence to hers...
Striking resemblence? You decide.
So I checked through my pics to come across any with a semi/sort of/its-a-stretch resemblence to hers...
Striking resemblence? You decide.
Brunette Punjaban and the Three Muslim Brothers
(to the tune of Goldie Locks and the Three Bears if you will)
"Dont get mad, don't be mean." This is just her story, listen and learn.
Brunette Punjaban on her quest for a husband has come across three very different Muslim brothers. Neither of the men are at home at the moment but in order to profile them, she enters each one's home.
First Brother: Lives in a tent on the side of a mountain. There is no address, you just 'happen' to it. His tent is neat. She doesn't know what he looks like because he has no pictures of himself. His room is neat. Theres a masalla in every room, but you dont need it because his house is like the mosque you can pray anywhere in it. In his closet hang (neat and pressed) shawls and shalwars, kurtas and kameezes. No hoodies, no throwbacks. She realizes very quickly this man is very religious, very pious. He eats only zabiha halal (he butchers animals behind his tent).
She feels uncomfortable. She feels she will be judged by him, unfairly.
She moves on to the third brothers house.
Third Brother: Lives large. Huge home. Pimped out ride. Very worldy kind of guy. She notices the grass hasnt been mowed. She figures the guy is miserly and has taken it upon himself to do yard duty in hopes of saving money. His 'fridge has nothing in it, but the freezer is stacked with microwave meals. Bachelor, no big deal. She knows what he looks like, immediately. He's practically wallpapered his house with pictures of himself... oh yeah, there's a small corner with pictures of his family too. She opens the door to his closet and screams finding herself amidst a graveyard, not just a couple of bones. Somethings should never be brought into the present. He's got more beauty products in his bathroom than the local drugstore (She thinks, "Maybe he's gay?") There is no sign of Islam in his house other than the Muslim name on his mailbox outside.
This place scares her, too. She feels as if she, too, will be judged and then be lost in a sea of women before her. She also feels sad in this home. He seems to have so much going for him... but yet he seems lost, too.
Let's see the first guy was too religious, the last guy was too un-religious. Isnt there a happy medium in between somewhere?
She looks around and remembers seeing another house somewhere, or was it her dream? Yes, there should be a home thats in the middle. A Muslim brother who's able to balance this world and Islam, a Muslim brother who's crazy about family and friends, a muslim brother who is decent and respectful, one who will cherish and protect his wife from the eyes of his friends, one who will keep his promise and stay true to his wife because he made a promise to her and Allah infront of his family and friends and a whole bunch of people he didnt even know. A Muslim brother with a professional career and a committment to his community.
She's just a little confused...and then slowly it dawns on her. She has yet to come across that house. She has not found it yet because she knows if she were to have found it... she'd have never let it go. That will be the end of her pursuit. She has to find that house.
...iA she will. This is not an accurate depiction of any one guy but rather a collection of stories that have been put together over the past few years. I have come to the understanding that there are three main types of men that every Muslimah will come across at one point in her life. The two extremes and the one thats just right. The 'titles' are not set in stone either. Any one of the three could at some point have been the other... and changed for better or for worse.
Finding the right person is not a matter to be taken lightly, but yet I dont believe it requires the amount of effort that people of today are putting into it either. I truly think we're overthinking the situation. Instead of leaving matters up to God, we're trying to find someone who will sign a notarized document stating this will be for life. We're not giving ourselves the chance to be able to deal with things, compromise, works things out. This is why we're becoming a generation of 40 yr old grooms and 35 yr old brides.
Look at it this way: think of marriage as a full course meal, or a sit down dinner (family style). We're too in a hurry, and we're not hungry enough. So we're picking at things and complaining. We're becoming too self-suficient, the 35 yr old bride has no financial need for a man and the 40 yr old groom is all too well known for skipping dinner and heading straight for dessert. What's he got to look forward to?
I just think we're hurting ourselves by being too picky. Maybe we should just wait...and work up an apetite. And iA when we're ready, we won't care what the dish looks like, or in some guys' cases..they'll just accept what their mothers put before them.
"Dont get mad, don't be mean." This is just her story, listen and learn.
Brunette Punjaban on her quest for a husband has come across three very different Muslim brothers. Neither of the men are at home at the moment but in order to profile them, she enters each one's home.
First Brother: Lives in a tent on the side of a mountain. There is no address, you just 'happen' to it. His tent is neat. She doesn't know what he looks like because he has no pictures of himself. His room is neat. Theres a masalla in every room, but you dont need it because his house is like the mosque you can pray anywhere in it. In his closet hang (neat and pressed) shawls and shalwars, kurtas and kameezes. No hoodies, no throwbacks. She realizes very quickly this man is very religious, very pious. He eats only zabiha halal (he butchers animals behind his tent).
She feels uncomfortable. She feels she will be judged by him, unfairly.
She moves on to the third brothers house.
Third Brother: Lives large. Huge home. Pimped out ride. Very worldy kind of guy. She notices the grass hasnt been mowed. She figures the guy is miserly and has taken it upon himself to do yard duty in hopes of saving money. His 'fridge has nothing in it, but the freezer is stacked with microwave meals. Bachelor, no big deal. She knows what he looks like, immediately. He's practically wallpapered his house with pictures of himself... oh yeah, there's a small corner with pictures of his family too. She opens the door to his closet and screams finding herself amidst a graveyard, not just a couple of bones. Somethings should never be brought into the present. He's got more beauty products in his bathroom than the local drugstore (She thinks, "Maybe he's gay?") There is no sign of Islam in his house other than the Muslim name on his mailbox outside.
This place scares her, too. She feels as if she, too, will be judged and then be lost in a sea of women before her. She also feels sad in this home. He seems to have so much going for him... but yet he seems lost, too.
Let's see the first guy was too religious, the last guy was too un-religious. Isnt there a happy medium in between somewhere?
She looks around and remembers seeing another house somewhere, or was it her dream? Yes, there should be a home thats in the middle. A Muslim brother who's able to balance this world and Islam, a Muslim brother who's crazy about family and friends, a muslim brother who is decent and respectful, one who will cherish and protect his wife from the eyes of his friends, one who will keep his promise and stay true to his wife because he made a promise to her and Allah infront of his family and friends and a whole bunch of people he didnt even know. A Muslim brother with a professional career and a committment to his community.
She's just a little confused...and then slowly it dawns on her. She has yet to come across that house. She has not found it yet because she knows if she were to have found it... she'd have never let it go. That will be the end of her pursuit. She has to find that house.
...iA she will. This is not an accurate depiction of any one guy but rather a collection of stories that have been put together over the past few years. I have come to the understanding that there are three main types of men that every Muslimah will come across at one point in her life. The two extremes and the one thats just right. The 'titles' are not set in stone either. Any one of the three could at some point have been the other... and changed for better or for worse.
Finding the right person is not a matter to be taken lightly, but yet I dont believe it requires the amount of effort that people of today are putting into it either. I truly think we're overthinking the situation. Instead of leaving matters up to God, we're trying to find someone who will sign a notarized document stating this will be for life. We're not giving ourselves the chance to be able to deal with things, compromise, works things out. This is why we're becoming a generation of 40 yr old grooms and 35 yr old brides.
Look at it this way: think of marriage as a full course meal, or a sit down dinner (family style). We're too in a hurry, and we're not hungry enough. So we're picking at things and complaining. We're becoming too self-suficient, the 35 yr old bride has no financial need for a man and the 40 yr old groom is all too well known for skipping dinner and heading straight for dessert. What's he got to look forward to?
I just think we're hurting ourselves by being too picky. Maybe we should just wait...and work up an apetite. And iA when we're ready, we won't care what the dish looks like, or in some guys' cases..they'll just accept what their mothers put before them.
For the first time in my life like EVER...
I was called paste-y and in need of some sun.
?
okay, so i've lived at the beach all my life and I used to play outdoors a lot when I was younger... but I NEVER once thought my skin color was the affect of all that.... but rather due to my "ethnicity", whatever it is nowadays.
...Ok, so ever since becoming a MOUNTAIN DWELLER, I have noticed...
BUT...paste-y???
So, my gut reaction was: Who you callin' pasty, whitey?! hehe im kidding
But I held back.. and thought.. AWWW HELLLLLLL NAWWWW!!!! We cant have me lookin' pasty... (quick Sarah, grab my Banana Boat Tanning Oil and I'll meet you on the front steps of the house!)
...I of all people know the dangers of skin cancer being in the Pathology field. I, also, know the fear of moles changing, having gone through a mole biopsy just a few months back... so I dont want to go crazy and hit up tanning salons... but I ammmm crazy wanting to go to the beach... I need the salty water, the sand between my toes, the sun's heat on my skin..... its like a heating pad.. only better.
...I have vacation from Aug. 21-25th. soo far away .....
?
okay, so i've lived at the beach all my life and I used to play outdoors a lot when I was younger... but I NEVER once thought my skin color was the affect of all that.... but rather due to my "ethnicity", whatever it is nowadays.
...Ok, so ever since becoming a MOUNTAIN DWELLER, I have noticed...
BUT...paste-y???
So, my gut reaction was: Who you callin' pasty, whitey?! hehe im kidding
But I held back.. and thought.. AWWW HELLLLLLL NAWWWW!!!! We cant have me lookin' pasty... (quick Sarah, grab my Banana Boat Tanning Oil and I'll meet you on the front steps of the house!)
...I of all people know the dangers of skin cancer being in the Pathology field. I, also, know the fear of moles changing, having gone through a mole biopsy just a few months back... so I dont want to go crazy and hit up tanning salons... but I ammmm crazy wanting to go to the beach... I need the salty water, the sand between my toes, the sun's heat on my skin..... its like a heating pad.. only better.
Works everytime...
1.) Smile - you'd be suprised how many people you can get to do what you want just by smiling
2.) Guilt - same thing applies (I know Im evil for it.. but its ok. Im a woman, and iA one day will have to perfect this in order to bring my children home for visits!!)
3.) Chocolate - 'nuff said
4.) Singing - I feel for my neighbors, I really do...
5.) Ovaltine and watching Cinderella (or your other childhood favorite movie) - believe me it works. it helps to be taken back to a place in your life where you really believed everything would work out in the end.
6.) Manicure/Pedicure - now if you dont know... then you just dont know. haha
7.) Sleeping - aah, you don't realize how much you take it for granted until you're up all night.
8.) Calling your sister - For me, calling Hanna (the eldest) is like going to confession, she has her moments but in the end her "lectures" on Islam make you feel better. I've figured her out though: the key is for me to cry and say Im a horrible person and I dont deserve God's blessing and then she says, "No, Farah, you're a really great person.. etc" Yeah, I cheat to feel better.. but it works everytime. It keeps us connected too.. and she'll never read this.
Now calling Sarah (the youngest...who somehow in maturity is older than me!) is a breath of fresh air... she mA is the voice of reason. Shes old enough to have witnessed some horrors of the world (which I could not shelter her from), but yet still naiive enough to believe and hope that things will get better. Isnt that whats called the rosy-tinted glasses effect?
9.) Shopping -- the key is NOT to ever come clean to yourself about just how much you really spent
10.) Charity - seeing those less fortunate always makes me realize that I really dont have it so bad... and it humbles me because I realize Allah controls my fate.. and at any minute... that could be me on the other end.
2.) Guilt - same thing applies (I know Im evil for it.. but its ok. Im a woman, and iA one day will have to perfect this in order to bring my children home for visits!!)
3.) Chocolate - 'nuff said
4.) Singing - I feel for my neighbors, I really do...
5.) Ovaltine and watching Cinderella (or your other childhood favorite movie) - believe me it works. it helps to be taken back to a place in your life where you really believed everything would work out in the end.
6.) Manicure/Pedicure - now if you dont know... then you just dont know. haha
7.) Sleeping - aah, you don't realize how much you take it for granted until you're up all night.
8.) Calling your sister - For me, calling Hanna (the eldest) is like going to confession, she has her moments but in the end her "lectures" on Islam make you feel better. I've figured her out though: the key is for me to cry and say Im a horrible person and I dont deserve God's blessing and then she says, "No, Farah, you're a really great person.. etc" Yeah, I cheat to feel better.. but it works everytime. It keeps us connected too.. and she'll never read this.
Now calling Sarah (the youngest...who somehow in maturity is older than me!) is a breath of fresh air... she mA is the voice of reason. Shes old enough to have witnessed some horrors of the world (which I could not shelter her from), but yet still naiive enough to believe and hope that things will get better. Isnt that whats called the rosy-tinted glasses effect?
9.) Shopping -- the key is NOT to ever come clean to yourself about just how much you really spent
10.) Charity - seeing those less fortunate always makes me realize that I really dont have it so bad... and it humbles me because I realize Allah controls my fate.. and at any minute... that could be me on the other end.
Monday, July 24, 2006
I love these email questionnaires
1. FIRST NAME? Farah
2. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Farah Pahlavi, who became Queen of Iran at the age
of 21.
3. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? All cried out...
4. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? Yes, its beautiful. Haha.
5. FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Tuna
6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? I'd be in love with me!
7. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? Yes, from high school. Its a riot to read. I also have a
blog.... (the one you're reading genius!)
8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS? GINORMOUS ONES!
9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? TOTALLY!, I'd just be a lil leary of the one who gets to
tie the band to me!
10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL? Lucky Charms
11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF? Nope
12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? I'm stronger than I think I am.
13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOUR? Jamocha Almond Fudge
14. SHOE SIZE? 7 1/2
15. FAVORITE COLOR? Red
16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? My lack of self-confidence
17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? You only miss those you've forgotten. I keep the ones
I love very close to me -- in my heart.
18. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU? N/A
19. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? Brown pants, brown shoes.
20. LAST THING YOU ATE? Gum, actually Im chewing it.
21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? Survivor, Destiny's Child
22. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? I'd be the color of life, the
only crayon you'd need to turn your gray day into a better one.
23. FAVORITE SMELL? Pleasures for Men...its intoxicating.
24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? Noreen, to let her know I got back safely last night
25. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO? Eyes
26. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? love her!
27. FAVORITE DRINK? Dragonfruit Vitamin Water
28. FAVORITE SPORT? Football to watch (GO EAGLES!) I enjoy all other sports to play
except for golf.
29. EYE COLOR? Mysterious brown
30. HAT SIZE? One size smaller than the airhead/big ego size
31. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? Yes
32. FAVORITE FOOD? Anything spicy
33. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS? "Happy endings are stories that havent finished
yet!" - Mr.&Mrs. Smith
34. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? I'm wearing a dark brown top
35. SUMMER OR WINTER? Winter!
36. HUGS OR KISSES? Both! <3
37. FAVORITE DESSERT? Three words: Death by chocolate
38. MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A
39. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A
40. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? A book about dream interpretation
41. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Dell Logo
42. WHAT DID YOU WATCH LAST NIGHT ON TV? Will&Grace
43. FAVORITE SOUNDS? Qur'anic recitation, my nephew/niece's laughter, the sound of
rain.
44. ROLLING STONE OR BEATLES? Um, U2. duh!
45. THE FURTHEREST YOU,VE BEEN FROM HOME? Pakistan, when I was 6.
46. WHAT'S YOUR SPECIAL TALENT? - Seeing people for who they truly are and still
loving them for it.
47. WHERE WERE YOU BORN? Lutheran General Hospital Parkridge, IL. :)
48. WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? Matina, London's finest
2. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Farah Pahlavi, who became Queen of Iran at the age
of 21.
3. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? All cried out...
4. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? Yes, its beautiful. Haha.
5. FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Tuna
6. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? I'd be in love with me!
7. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? Yes, from high school. Its a riot to read. I also have a
blog.... (the one you're reading genius!)
8. DO YOU STILL HAVE YOUR TONSILS? GINORMOUS ONES!
9. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? TOTALLY!, I'd just be a lil leary of the one who gets to
tie the band to me!
10. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CEREAL? Lucky Charms
11. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOES WHEN YOU TAKE THEM OFF? Nope
12. DO YOU THINK YOU ARE STRONG? I'm stronger than I think I am.
13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOUR? Jamocha Almond Fudge
14. SHOE SIZE? 7 1/2
15. FAVORITE COLOR? Red
16. WHAT IS THE LEAST FAVORITE THING ABOUT YOURSELF? My lack of self-confidence
17. WHO DO YOU MISS THE MOST? You only miss those you've forgotten. I keep the ones
I love very close to me -- in my heart.
18. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SEND THIS BACK TO YOU? N/A
19. WHAT COLOR PANTS AND SHOES ARE YOU WEARING? Brown pants, brown shoes.
20. LAST THING YOU ATE? Gum, actually Im chewing it.
21. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? Survivor, Destiny's Child
22. IF YOU WERE A CRAYON, WHAT COLOR WOULD YOU BE? I'd be the color of life, the
only crayon you'd need to turn your gray day into a better one.
23. FAVORITE SMELL? Pleasures for Men...its intoxicating.
24. WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? Noreen, to let her know I got back safely last night
25. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE ABOUT PEOPLE YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO? Eyes
26. DO YOU LIKE THE PERSON WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? love her!
27. FAVORITE DRINK? Dragonfruit Vitamin Water
28. FAVORITE SPORT? Football to watch (GO EAGLES!) I enjoy all other sports to play
except for golf.
29. EYE COLOR? Mysterious brown
30. HAT SIZE? One size smaller than the airhead/big ego size
31. DO YOU WEAR CONTACTS? Yes
32. FAVORITE FOOD? Anything spicy
33. SCARY MOVIES OR HAPPY ENDINGS? "Happy endings are stories that havent finished
yet!" - Mr.&Mrs. Smith
34. WHAT COLOR SHIRT ARE YOU WEARING? I'm wearing a dark brown top
35. SUMMER OR WINTER? Winter!
36. HUGS OR KISSES? Both! <3
37. FAVORITE DESSERT? Three words: Death by chocolate
38. MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A
39. LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? N/A
40. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? A book about dream interpretation
41. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Dell Logo
42. WHAT DID YOU WATCH LAST NIGHT ON TV? Will&Grace
43. FAVORITE SOUNDS? Qur'anic recitation, my nephew/niece's laughter, the sound of
rain.
44. ROLLING STONE OR BEATLES? Um, U2. duh!
45. THE FURTHEREST YOU,VE BEEN FROM HOME? Pakistan, when I was 6.
46. WHAT'S YOUR SPECIAL TALENT? - Seeing people for who they truly are and still
loving them for it.
47. WHERE WERE YOU BORN? Lutheran General Hospital Parkridge, IL. :)
48. WHO SENT THIS TO YOU? Matina, London's finest
Monday...ugh.
I had to be toted to work again this morning. My car is at Nissan being fixed. They knocked off my mirror when they were washing my car from being serviced last time. My mirror finally came in so I made the earliest appointment possible. (Then regretted it this morning when I had to get up) Is it horrible of me that I didnt miss the mirror at all? And its the drivers side mirror. I dont use my side mirrors when driving. I dont trust them. I always glance around to my blindspots instead.
Two weeks left until the CAMP-Philly Gala! Buy your tickets online!
I'm going to leave this post with some memorable lines...
Office Space
"Let me ask you something. When you come in on Monday, and you're not feelin' real well, does anyone ever say to you, 'Sounds like someone has a case of the Mondays'?"
"No. Sh*t, no, man. I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin' something like that."
Sex and the City
Carrie: Later that day I got to thinking about fairy tales. What if Prince Charming had never shown up? Would Snow White have laid in that glass box forever? Or would she have gotten up, spit out the apple, gotten a job and a health care plan and moved on with her life?
Meet Joe Black
William Parrish: How perfect for you - to take whatever you want because it pleases you. That's not love.
Joe Black: Then what is it?
William Parrish: Some aimless infatuation which, for the moment, you feel like indulging - it's missing everything that matters.
Joe Black: Which is what?
William Parrish: Trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings, and spending the rest of your life living up to them. And above all, not hurting the object of your love.
Joe Black: So that's what love is according to William Parrish?
William Parrish: Multiply it by infinity, and take it to the depth of forever, and you will still have barely a glimpse of what I'm talking about.
Shakespeare In Love
Viola De Lesseps: I will have poetry in my life. And adventure. And love. Love above all. No... not the artful postures of love, not playful and poetical games of love for the amusement of an evening, but love that... over-throws life. Unbiddable, ungovernable - like a riot in the heart, and nothing to be done, come ruin or rapture. Love - like there has never been in a play.
Gone With the Wind
Rhett Butler: I'm not asking you to forgive me. I'll never understand or forgive myself. And if a bullet gets me, so help me, I'll laugh at myself for being an idiot. There's one thing I do know... and that is that I love you, Scarlett. In spite of you and me and the whole silly world going to pieces around us, I love you. Because we're alike. Bad lots, both of us. Selfish and shrewd. But able to look things in the eyes as we call them by their right names.
Two weeks left until the CAMP-Philly Gala! Buy your tickets online!
I'm going to leave this post with some memorable lines...
Office Space
"Let me ask you something. When you come in on Monday, and you're not feelin' real well, does anyone ever say to you, 'Sounds like someone has a case of the Mondays'?"
"No. Sh*t, no, man. I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin' something like that."
Sex and the City
Carrie: Later that day I got to thinking about fairy tales. What if Prince Charming had never shown up? Would Snow White have laid in that glass box forever? Or would she have gotten up, spit out the apple, gotten a job and a health care plan and moved on with her life?
Meet Joe Black
William Parrish: How perfect for you - to take whatever you want because it pleases you. That's not love.
Joe Black: Then what is it?
William Parrish: Some aimless infatuation which, for the moment, you feel like indulging - it's missing everything that matters.
Joe Black: Which is what?
William Parrish: Trust, responsibility, taking the weight for your choices and feelings, and spending the rest of your life living up to them. And above all, not hurting the object of your love.
Joe Black: So that's what love is according to William Parrish?
William Parrish: Multiply it by infinity, and take it to the depth of forever, and you will still have barely a glimpse of what I'm talking about.
Shakespeare In Love
Viola De Lesseps: I will have poetry in my life. And adventure. And love. Love above all. No... not the artful postures of love, not playful and poetical games of love for the amusement of an evening, but love that... over-throws life. Unbiddable, ungovernable - like a riot in the heart, and nothing to be done, come ruin or rapture. Love - like there has never been in a play.
Gone With the Wind
Rhett Butler: I'm not asking you to forgive me. I'll never understand or forgive myself. And if a bullet gets me, so help me, I'll laugh at myself for being an idiot. There's one thing I do know... and that is that I love you, Scarlett. In spite of you and me and the whole silly world going to pieces around us, I love you. Because we're alike. Bad lots, both of us. Selfish and shrewd. But able to look things in the eyes as we call them by their right names.
Friday, July 21, 2006
PUNJABONICS... you know I had to!
Billo – Shorty
Pind de munday – homeboys
Pind – the hood
Oyee hoye – whaa whaa
Balle – its all good
Heer/Ranjha – Romeo and Juliet
Chak de – Raise the roof
Sohni kuri – fly girl
Gabroo – youngin’
Kidhaaa – what’s good
Akh de ishare – how you doin’??
Gidda – how we women do our thaaang
Bhangra – crunk
(pao bhangra – get crunk!)
Nachna – grindin’
(tere naal nachna – I wanna grind wit’cha)
Gwandiyah – white boi
Goriaye – white girl
Baba jee – the man
Pannay – sista
Veer – brotha
Jazzy B – Jay Z
Hut ja – pop off
Tor punjaban di - baby got back (this one is a stretch)
Hero Honda – Bentley
Lowe it – lovin’ it
Pagiri – trucker hat
kurti – throwback
siftan – to hollaa
(siftan karde pind de munday saray)
Bata – Timbs
Bayja bayja – so good make you wanna slap yo mama!
Tamala – wall out
Channa - #1 stunna
Havayli/kothi - crib
waddaya - chillin'
(its what you say after someone says Kidhaa in case you didnt know)
Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan - Biggy
RDB - b2k
Taz (from Stereo Nation) - R. Kelly
Adnan Sami Khan - Luther Vandross (rip)
chichora - badboy
goonda - gangstaa
teri maa - yo mamaaa!
Pind de munday – homeboys
Pind – the hood
Oyee hoye – whaa whaa
Balle – its all good
Heer/Ranjha – Romeo and Juliet
Chak de – Raise the roof
Sohni kuri – fly girl
Gabroo – youngin’
Kidhaaa – what’s good
Akh de ishare – how you doin’??
Gidda – how we women do our thaaang
Bhangra – crunk
(pao bhangra – get crunk!)
Nachna – grindin’
(tere naal nachna – I wanna grind wit’cha)
Gwandiyah – white boi
Goriaye – white girl
Baba jee – the man
Pannay – sista
Veer – brotha
Jazzy B – Jay Z
Hut ja – pop off
Tor punjaban di - baby got back (this one is a stretch)
Hero Honda – Bentley
Lowe it – lovin’ it
Pagiri – trucker hat
kurti – throwback
siftan – to hollaa
(siftan karde pind de munday saray)
Bata – Timbs
Bayja bayja – so good make you wanna slap yo mama!
Tamala – wall out
Channa - #1 stunna
Havayli/kothi - crib
waddaya - chillin'
(its what you say after someone says Kidhaa in case you didnt know)
Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan - Biggy
RDB - b2k
Taz (from Stereo Nation) - R. Kelly
Adnan Sami Khan - Luther Vandross (rip)
chichora - badboy
goonda - gangstaa
teri maa - yo mamaaa!
Emergency?
Farah979 [8:45 P.M.]: call me if you need to talk ok
towson14 [8:45 P.M.]: 911
Farah979 [8:45 P.M.]: hahahah
Farah979 [8:45 P.M.]: funny!
Farah979 [8:45 P.M.]: ahhaha
towson14 [8:45 P.M.]: that's your number
So, am I the one to call in an emergency, or am I the emergency?
Thursday, July 20, 2006
Touche!
Ok so we all know SPAM-MAIL all too well. Most all email sites come with their own way of "cleaning" up your inbox, but God love AOL, every now and then one slips through. This is what I was about to delete from my inbox until it caught my attention and I was hooked just by the title alone.
I swear I've seen it all in a been there done that fashion, vicariously and on my own time, but this is simply put. Read it, laugh about it, agree with it, send it to your friends, print-it out and wipe your ass with it if you dont agree (then go buy toilet paper you filthy animal!) but DO NOT argue with me about it... I dont care for your side of the story.
I just thought it was funny -- of course he tries to promote his book in the end which I cut out... I should write my own damn book!
I like number 10. about GETTING HELP! Like having Dr. Phil on speed-dial? I'm sorry but that'll be the day I walk into a psych ward and have MYSELF committed.
A Special Letter For Women Only...
"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men— And What To Do About It..."
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them... read more
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do. And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well. Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here? It's actually very simple. Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well. Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection". Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much. I'm amazed the women put up with me. But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change. The women I dated hoped I'd change. The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them. The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever... The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition".
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...
It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I've studied peoples behavior, "inner psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.
If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, "controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to "convince" the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he's not ready".
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
P.S. Do one of your girlfriends a favor and FORWARD this article to them. It might be one of the best gifts you ever give them - a "new lease" on their love life!
I swear I've seen it all in a been there done that fashion, vicariously and on my own time, but this is simply put. Read it, laugh about it, agree with it, send it to your friends, print-it out and wipe your ass with it if you dont agree (then go buy toilet paper you filthy animal!) but DO NOT argue with me about it... I dont care for your side of the story.
I just thought it was funny -- of course he tries to promote his book in the end which I cut out... I should write my own damn book!
I like number 10. about GETTING HELP! Like having Dr. Phil on speed-dial? I'm sorry but that'll be the day I walk into a psych ward and have MYSELF committed.
A Special Letter For Women Only...
"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Men— And What To Do About It..."
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Women Keep Themselves From Living The Love Life Of They're Dreams— And How To Make Sure You Avoid Every One Of Them... read more
MISTAKE #1: Betting Your Love Life On His “Potential”
Do you know any women who want the man they're dating to behave differently?
Of course you do. And just like me, I'm sure you have friends who date guys who don't have much going for them or who don't treat them very well. Somehow these women always have an excuse for the guy's shortcomings.
What's going on here? It's actually very simple. Women (and men) don't base their choices of men on how "nice" or "good" someone is to them day-to-day. Women choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. And guess what? Some women will continue to put up with a guy that doesn't treat them very well. Well, to put it simply, they confuse the strong attraction they feel for the guy with a deeper "connection". Women who do this are doomed to end up in failed relationships with the "wrong" guys.
Thinking back on past dating and relationships I've had, I was selfish and didn't offer much. I'm amazed the women put up with me. But they did...all the while hoping that I would somehow change. The women I dated hoped I'd change. The only thing they saw in me that led them to want to keep me around was the "potential" they saw in me to share my feelings and communicate with them. The potential for something better and the potential for me to change and be a better lover, boyfriend, companion or whatever... The truth was, I was hopelessly bad at these things at the time.
And more importantly, I wasn't even at a place in my life where I knew how to or was interested in developing a deep and committed relationship - with ANYONE.
But deep down these women believed that if they tried hard enough, that it would make up for what was lacking.
Talk about a losing battle.
It doesn't make a lot of "logical" sense...
But until you accept that lots of women do this AND that YOU could be doing it on some level, you'll NEVER have the success with men that you choose and want.
MISTAKE #2: Assuming You “Get” Men & Their Psychology
Men are different from women.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a woman sees a man, she can very quickly pick apart certain things about his style, body language, status and character that will tell her all kinds of things about him.
Lot's of women don't even consciously see that they do this because the process is so obvious and simple for them.
But does the same apply for men?
As you probably already know, men are generally more visual.
As a result, they often don't understand non-verbal communication as well as women.
And men often lack what women have in emotional awareness and "intuition".
Women don't seem to remember this about men.
So do men feel sexually attracted to w0men based just on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for years now, and talking to thousands of men and women, I can tell you that men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Especially when it comes to longer term relationships.
Looks just happen to be the most obvious way...
But looks are NOT the most powerful.
If you know how to use your body language AND communication correctly, you can make men feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see that hot, great looking guy that you got to know.
But it's not an accident.
You have to LEARN how to do this.
And ANY woman can learn how...
MISTAKE #3: Pretending To Be Something For A Man
In the desire to please a man, women are constantly doing things to get a man's attention, to get him to like them or to make him more attracted or in love with them.
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Lots of women mistakenly think that doing unusual things to try and get a guys attention will make him magically see what a great catch they are and want to be with them.
Wrong.
Men YOU TRULY WANT are never attracted to the types of women who kiss up to them, make weak plays for affection or complain to get what they want... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here. Things like being sexy for a man or encouraging him to share his feelings can be good, but it has to be genuine, unselfish, and most of all timely.
You don't have to act like an "easy" woman for men to like you, and you certainly don't have to play like he's some gift to the Earth.
Doing these things actually works to subtly, at an subconscious level, lower your social status with a man, which has EVERYTHING to do with how he sees you as a woman.
So if you think that making him more attracted to you means "playing to the man's fantasies" from the start, think again.
You'll never succeed by looking for a man's approval, finding your way into his heart through sex and not being yourself.
MISTAKE #4: Sharing How You “Feel” Too Early With Him
Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most women make with men is sharing how they "feel" too early on.
Listen...
Attractive, single, successful men are rare.
They get a LOT of attention from women.
Most women don't realize this, but attractive men are being approached in one way or another all the time by women.
And guess what?
Attractive wen have usually dated a lot of women.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive men off and sends him running away faster than just about anything...
It's a woman who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.
This signals to the man that you're just like one of those "clingy" stereotype women who want to rush into a relationship and can't control yourself from wanting a man to fulfill them and complete their lives.
This does NOT spell ATTRACTION for a man.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #5: Misreading The Important “Signals” That Men Send
Men are constantly communicating how they feel about a woman and giving away big secrets about themselves.
Most women don't pay attention to these signals or recognize them for what they really are.
The signals men send have 4 main levels:
1) Social: Where the man is at in his own life - stability, confidence, direction
2) Emotional: Whether or not he's "emotionally available"
3) Physical: If he's attracted to you... and for what reasons
4) Love State: If he's open to building and growing a relationship in the future
The funny thing is that men send signals in these areas completely on accident.
That's great news to women...
Men can't help it!
You need to learn to recognize these signals to get anywhere serious with a man.
MISTAKE #6: Relying On Your Natural Ability To Judge A Man's Character
People aren't easy to figure out.
Especially men.
The last several years of my life I've spent hundreds of hours learning to understand people.
I've studied peoples behavior, "inner psychology" and more specifically how they think and act when they're dating.
From what I've seen, both men and women have their own secret ways of saying things.
But you can only see these secret communications if you know what to look for.
Women communicate with hints, body language, sarcasm, and flirting when they're first getting to know a man.
They can either directly or indirectly let men know if they're open to something more serious.
Men are different.
Men generally communicate with sarcasm, humor, cockyness and other "indirect" displays of status.
VERY RARELY will a man be able to honestly communicate to a woman whether or not he's ready or capable of developing a meaningful relationship.
Aside from their sexual interests, men send very indirect signals about where they're at.
If you don't know how to read through the signals men send, then you'll get the wrong message.
Getting the wrong messages from men causes women more pain and heartache than any other issue around.
You can avoid this pain if you learn to indentify a good man from a bad one.
MISTAKE #7: Expecting A Relationship To Make You Happy
A mistake I've seen women make is thinking a guy will change her life and make her happy and fulfilled.
And sure, there are situations and relationships where this happens.
But those are the exceptions, not the rule.
Nothing says "Run!" to a man faster than hearing or sensing that a woman immediately wants him to take care of her.
And the men who ARE looking for this kind of situation aren't exactly the most healthy, loving, nurturing people out there.
Think, "controlling, macho, or serious Mom Issues!"
So let me be clear...
I think it's important that people help fulfill each other in their lives, whether it's dating, a relationship, whatever.
But if a woman communicates that she's looking for a guy to take care of her, complete her, make her whole, and all that kind of stuff - it has a VERY negative effect on what the man will think of her.
It doesn't have to be spoken by the woman either...
If a woman thinks or feels this way, the man will see it and pick up on it, regardless.
This is arguably the worst thing a woman can do early on when dating a man.
So what can you do as a woman?
You can get the man interested and involved in your life in a more "natural" way, where he'll be motivated to make you care about your happiness and fulfillment on his own.
This is the only way it really works for people - male or female.
Self-motivation is much stronger than external motivation.
But you have to know how to create this situation with a man... and it rarely happens by accident.
MISTAKE #8: Trying To “Convince” Him To Like You Or Love You
What do most women do when they meet a man that they REALLY like... but he's just not that interested or isn't as serious?
Right! They try to "convince" the man to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you...
YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A MAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, ever.
You cannot convince a man to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a man doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that by being "reasonable" with him?
But we all do it.
Men are the worst at this by the way.
They're always complimenting women who don't like them and buying them gifts.
Women like the behavior sometimes, but it NEVER makes the woman like the man.
She might enjoy what she gets out of it, but it doesn't change the way she FEELS about him.
When a man just isn't interested, women will try and chase, compliment, convince and do their best to change his mind with logical and rational approaches.
Bad idea. Another one that will never work.
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing What To Do In Each Type Of Situation
A man has a clear idea of what he wants from a woman...
And I don't mean just sex.
I know, it might be hard to believe, but if you're out on a date with a man, he already has an idea of what he wants from you.
And if you don't know HOW to find this out, and you just sit there looking at him and flirting, or trying things you think will make him want you, he won't help!
If you don't know what to do in each situation, you'll probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This mistake keeps women from EVER having the kind of success and finding the kind of man and relationship that they truly want.
I know, you don't like to make yourself look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.
Let me tell you a little about me.
Over the last few years it's been hard to watch the women around me (even those I dated) struggle to understand the men they were attracted to or dating.
It frustrated the hell out of me and I made the decision to do whatever it took to help the women I knew learn how to be successful with men and dating.
Well, after a lot of hard work and doing all kinds of crazy things to learn the real-world truth about men and women, I finally figured things out for myself.
I've read hundreds of books on psychology, human behavior, dating/relationship advice for men and women, love, attraction, communication, and more. The list goes on.
I can now approach just about any situation with dating and feel confident and understand everything that's going on in an interaction.
Best of all, I've been able to share my knowledge and help women become more successful with men and dating.
It's been a very rewarding experience, and it's how I became fascinated with the female perspective in the dating world.
I've helped women get rid of that sick, insecure feeling... the one you get when you're lonely, you've been hurt or lied to, or when a man you have feelings for says "he's not ready".
You don't have to be afraid you might wind up being lied to, cheated on or that you'll end up alone.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
P.S. Do one of your girlfriends a favor and FORWARD this article to them. It might be one of the best gifts you ever give them - a "new lease" on their love life!
What will they think of next?
TOKYO - A new product on the Japanese market has been designed for the single girl in need of some manly comfort while she sleeps.
The “Boyfriend Arm’s Pillow” is shaped like a giant arm which will hold you all night without the need for the real thing.
The almost life-size boyfriend pillow is the product of the Japanese bed linen maker, Kameo Corp., located in the Japanese city of Fukuoka. The company already sold more than 1,000 pillows since its launch last year. It costs $80 dollars (8,500 yen) and is currently only sold in Japan on the Internet.
Kameo is now planning to upgrade the pillow by producing different models, including a muscular one. And the company is also working on the prototype for a fake female lap shaped pillow targeting male users.
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
CAMP-PHILADELPHIA GALA!!!!!!!!!!
We've also secured Omar Blaik as our keynote speaker!!! Buy your tickets early and save money!
Farah's hurtin'
So I finally did it! I took the spinning class I've been wanting to take for soo long. And now Im hurtin' something awful! It was the seat! Those horrible, wicked, hard seats. Thats what the instructor warned me about too but I'm thinking, How bad can it be? REAL BAD! The first ten minutes were okay, then all of a sudden the pain came from nowhere. But it was ok cuz by minute 28 my ass went completely numb. Then it was all downhill from there. Actually, it wasnt. Because of the Tour De France going on, the instructor was modelling her class by what they do in practice, etc. We did a time trial thingy where you got uphills and you go hard for 15 seconds, then slow down when you're going downhill, then back up again. I didnt feel it in my legs at all, my main problem was the seat. Apparently they have these gel covers that I will totally go and buy tonight.
Last night was really fun. My parents, sister, and I decided to go out for a long drive. I wanted to show them my 'hood' ie mountains and valleys. Ahem, beautiful mountains, valleys, and lakes (oh my!). We went through Catoctin Mountain Park, yes, the super windy, 90 degree sharp turns. They loved it.
And get this! Apparently Catoctin Mountain Park is a Federal Park and also the home of Camp David. OH MY GOSH! OH MY GOSH! I had no idea. Pa found out through the guy who was giving him a guided tour around the offices he would be supervising. I knew there was a reason for the military HMVs I'd seen but of course I thought it was just an awesome off-roading vehicle, and not for military purpose!
My dad was super cautious on the turns but it still made my sister freak, then she turns to me and says, "I am not going on this road with you. I bet you were doing like 50" 50? Try 65! And I found this one road thats totally unmarked... that goes parallel to this one major road so it cuts through the mountain instead of going around... perfect for off-roading (thats my new passion by the way...second to spinning! haha)
Ok Im at work super early...hopefully to leave super early (as long as Im not busy wasting time talking to 'The Peddler')
My phone charger has gone missing. Uff Allah! Allz I got is my car charger. ie. my phone is dead. I was supposed to call people from my home phone but now since Pa is living with me and working from home, he had my only line tied up all night. Oh and my laptop?? Still not fixed. :(
Tonight is my phone interview for a job in Chicago. Wish me luck, it just might be my ticket to visit ISNA weekend! Is that wrong of me? To take an interview just so they fly me out so I can visit family/friends? Im also applying to the Bay Area hospital so I can finally see Cali! haha. =)
Anwyay, armed with a steaming cup of coffee, Cheers to a good day, iA!
Last night was really fun. My parents, sister, and I decided to go out for a long drive. I wanted to show them my 'hood' ie mountains and valleys. Ahem, beautiful mountains, valleys, and lakes (oh my!). We went through Catoctin Mountain Park, yes, the super windy, 90 degree sharp turns. They loved it.
And get this! Apparently Catoctin Mountain Park is a Federal Park and also the home of Camp David. OH MY GOSH! OH MY GOSH! I had no idea. Pa found out through the guy who was giving him a guided tour around the offices he would be supervising. I knew there was a reason for the military HMVs I'd seen but of course I thought it was just an awesome off-roading vehicle, and not for military purpose!
My dad was super cautious on the turns but it still made my sister freak, then she turns to me and says, "I am not going on this road with you. I bet you were doing like 50" 50? Try 65! And I found this one road thats totally unmarked... that goes parallel to this one major road so it cuts through the mountain instead of going around... perfect for off-roading (thats my new passion by the way...second to spinning! haha)
Ok Im at work super early...hopefully to leave super early (as long as Im not busy wasting time talking to 'The Peddler')
My phone charger has gone missing. Uff Allah! Allz I got is my car charger. ie. my phone is dead. I was supposed to call people from my home phone but now since Pa is living with me and working from home, he had my only line tied up all night. Oh and my laptop?? Still not fixed. :(
Tonight is my phone interview for a job in Chicago. Wish me luck, it just might be my ticket to visit ISNA weekend! Is that wrong of me? To take an interview just so they fly me out so I can visit family/friends? Im also applying to the Bay Area hospital so I can finally see Cali! haha. =)
Anwyay, armed with a steaming cup of coffee, Cheers to a good day, iA!
Monday, July 17, 2006
Cuteness
Little children are soooo adorable! My two (neph and niece) of course being the most cutest, adorablest, sweetest, and funniest! Here's a pic of Fatima's leg from last weekend when we were watching them at my sisters house. She completely exhausted herself from playing and fell asleep... face down on the sofa, half hanfing off. Too cute. My sister will kill me if she sees this!
Here are some fireworks from the 4th: a perfect view from my living room.
Here are some fireworks from the 4th: a perfect view from my living room.
Long Weekend
I highly recommend taking off a Friday and travelling to another city and staying for the weekend! I had an amazing time and I feel totally refreshed coming back to work today. I suppose mini vacations are always better than long, drawn out, week or two week long vacations.
I went to Philly with Christiana. Got all my paperwork done for my new job and also got to look at an apartment in the Ben Franklin House. At this point, Im seriously considering living on my own, just for when family comes to visit, and also because I've got way too much stuff. If I have to rent movers and a truck to move up most of my stuff, then I might as well take it all and move into my OWN place. Im not picky - but when Im paying an arm and a leg for just a room -- why not pay an arm and a leg and a toe and get your OWN place? Right? Well, I still have a lot to consider at this point so I will take my time and hopefully make the absolute best decision.
After we finished with Philly, we went to Atlantic City! Woohoo! Ok yes I gambled but before you comdemn me to eternal damnation hear me out! I only took out $100 and playing poker was able to turn that $100 into $300. As I started winning, I took my $100 and put it away. So basically I didnt gamble with my money. I only gambled with winnings. I didnt lose anything. Ok fine.. its not wrong but its not completely right either. :P
My father is now staying with me because he transferred his job to my area, but my sister and mother have come to visit so its nice for all of us to be together in the same place, again, like old times, even though this time we're fighting for the last towel and who gets to sleep on the bigger sofa! :) They're currently shopping for houses and iA I hope they find one they like. I really don't want them to sell the Bury home, because we feel we can use that as a vacation home or if anything atleast until Sarah comes to college across the bay.
What else happened? Other than the hottie, Latino dealer who kept trying to hit on me, or the Arab brothers who considered me family... or the time I spent an hour and a half trying to pee in a cup. IT WAS A THREE HOUR DRIVE! I emptied my bladder the minute we parked! Four cups of water and three handwashings under hot water later I finally went. I have problems peeing on demand. I think I overthink the situation. lol.
Other than that it was a pretty chill, laid back weekend... lots of driving. I'll have to go back soon to look at other places.
I went to Philly with Christiana. Got all my paperwork done for my new job and also got to look at an apartment in the Ben Franklin House. At this point, Im seriously considering living on my own, just for when family comes to visit, and also because I've got way too much stuff. If I have to rent movers and a truck to move up most of my stuff, then I might as well take it all and move into my OWN place. Im not picky - but when Im paying an arm and a leg for just a room -- why not pay an arm and a leg and a toe and get your OWN place? Right? Well, I still have a lot to consider at this point so I will take my time and hopefully make the absolute best decision.
After we finished with Philly, we went to Atlantic City! Woohoo! Ok yes I gambled but before you comdemn me to eternal damnation hear me out! I only took out $100 and playing poker was able to turn that $100 into $300. As I started winning, I took my $100 and put it away. So basically I didnt gamble with my money. I only gambled with winnings. I didnt lose anything. Ok fine.. its not wrong but its not completely right either. :P
My father is now staying with me because he transferred his job to my area, but my sister and mother have come to visit so its nice for all of us to be together in the same place, again, like old times, even though this time we're fighting for the last towel and who gets to sleep on the bigger sofa! :) They're currently shopping for houses and iA I hope they find one they like. I really don't want them to sell the Bury home, because we feel we can use that as a vacation home or if anything atleast until Sarah comes to college across the bay.
What else happened? Other than the hottie, Latino dealer who kept trying to hit on me, or the Arab brothers who considered me family... or the time I spent an hour and a half trying to pee in a cup. IT WAS A THREE HOUR DRIVE! I emptied my bladder the minute we parked! Four cups of water and three handwashings under hot water later I finally went. I have problems peeing on demand. I think I overthink the situation. lol.
Other than that it was a pretty chill, laid back weekend... lots of driving. I'll have to go back soon to look at other places.
Wednesday, July 12, 2006
When a rap song will do...
"And now, a word from the president!
Damn it feels good to be a gangsta
Gettin voted into the white house
Everything lookin good to the people of the world
But the mafia family is my boss
So every now and then I owe a favor gettin down
Like lettin a big drug shipment through
And send em to the poor community
So we can bust you know who
So voters of the world keep supportin me
And I promise to take you very far
Other leaders better not upset me
Or Ill send a million troops to die at war
To all you republicans, that helped me win
I sincerely like to thank you
Cuz now I got the world swingin from my nuts
And damn it feels good to be a gangsta"
-Ghetto Boys, Damn It Feels Good to be a Gangsta (office space anthem!)
Damn it feels good to be a gangsta
Gettin voted into the white house
Everything lookin good to the people of the world
But the mafia family is my boss
So every now and then I owe a favor gettin down
Like lettin a big drug shipment through
And send em to the poor community
So we can bust you know who
So voters of the world keep supportin me
And I promise to take you very far
Other leaders better not upset me
Or Ill send a million troops to die at war
To all you republicans, that helped me win
I sincerely like to thank you
Cuz now I got the world swingin from my nuts
And damn it feels good to be a gangsta"
-Ghetto Boys, Damn It Feels Good to be a Gangsta (office space anthem!)
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
WHOAH!
My horoscope has always managed to freak me out a little because it always has been accurate. But this, this is CRAZY INSANE on the money!
Family:
You appear to have a great many challenges, requests and/or duties 'brought to you,' near the 9th to 12th with some 'mundane' level of 'trudging on,' required but by the 13th much of your efforts appear to 'pay off,' as enhanced family life, deeper understanding and/or more enjoyable times appear to be on their way for the 13th to 16th, especially in gatherings and celebrations of life.
Those who know me know that my dad transferred his job up to my neck of the woods and so he is living with me for the time being. The mention of the 9th - 12th is dead on because family is over since Sunday. The 13th - 16th is also dead on with celebrations of life -- ie Christiana's 27th Birthday in AC this weekend! Her bday is actually on the 13th.
Love:
Romance may hold some good news for both you and those friends/family close to you. Announcements of births and weddings is likely along with expanding family members and/or new friends entering your 'circle of love.' Read the weekly partner horoscope...
Yes, yes, every desi family has its fair share of weddings.
Friendship:
New friends near the 13th to 15th or from the events of it are likely and may come in through your own meetings/contacts or may be 'through a friend of a friend,' but enjoyable nonetheless. Libra, Pisces, Cancer and Capricorn are likely signs for new pals.
This is promising iA because this weekend I will be meeting a possible roommate in Philly. Not only that, I am meeting people from my new job! I hope everything works out iA.
Career:
Calculation mistakes are possible along with communication errors. Check bank balances, amounts and payments to be sure your 'butt is not on the line,' in something left undone or unfinished, especially near the 11th. Make sure meetings are 'made on time,' the 12th and info/facts transferred properly the 14th.
Theres no doubt to anyone our dept here at this job has communication errors. The biggest one being psycho bitch. 'Unfinished' is creepy because yesterday after I picked up my car from the shop I had the strange feeling of something being left undone. Or overlooked I should say. For some reason the brakes arent working the best that they should -- and I kept thinking what if. I'll have to get that checked. The only thing I can think of literally for the meaning of 'unfinished' is the side mirror that they knocked off while washing my car to be replaced courtesy of Nissan, but it will take a couple days for delivery.
"Meetings made on time" on the 12th -- CAMP conference call -- and I always have to remind myself so that I dont miss them. And of course we need to be on the same page for travel plans of the 14th.
You have now entered THE TWILIGHT ZONE...
... ok that was goofy.
Family:
You appear to have a great many challenges, requests and/or duties 'brought to you,' near the 9th to 12th with some 'mundane' level of 'trudging on,' required but by the 13th much of your efforts appear to 'pay off,' as enhanced family life, deeper understanding and/or more enjoyable times appear to be on their way for the 13th to 16th, especially in gatherings and celebrations of life.
Those who know me know that my dad transferred his job up to my neck of the woods and so he is living with me for the time being. The mention of the 9th - 12th is dead on because family is over since Sunday. The 13th - 16th is also dead on with celebrations of life -- ie Christiana's 27th Birthday in AC this weekend! Her bday is actually on the 13th.
Love:
Romance may hold some good news for both you and those friends/family close to you. Announcements of births and weddings is likely along with expanding family members and/or new friends entering your 'circle of love.' Read the weekly partner horoscope...
Yes, yes, every desi family has its fair share of weddings.
Friendship:
New friends near the 13th to 15th or from the events of it are likely and may come in through your own meetings/contacts or may be 'through a friend of a friend,' but enjoyable nonetheless. Libra, Pisces, Cancer and Capricorn are likely signs for new pals.
This is promising iA because this weekend I will be meeting a possible roommate in Philly. Not only that, I am meeting people from my new job! I hope everything works out iA.
Career:
Calculation mistakes are possible along with communication errors. Check bank balances, amounts and payments to be sure your 'butt is not on the line,' in something left undone or unfinished, especially near the 11th. Make sure meetings are 'made on time,' the 12th and info/facts transferred properly the 14th.
Theres no doubt to anyone our dept here at this job has communication errors. The biggest one being psycho bitch. 'Unfinished' is creepy because yesterday after I picked up my car from the shop I had the strange feeling of something being left undone. Or overlooked I should say. For some reason the brakes arent working the best that they should -- and I kept thinking what if. I'll have to get that checked. The only thing I can think of literally for the meaning of 'unfinished' is the side mirror that they knocked off while washing my car to be replaced courtesy of Nissan, but it will take a couple days for delivery.
"Meetings made on time" on the 12th -- CAMP conference call -- and I always have to remind myself so that I dont miss them. And of course we need to be on the same page for travel plans of the 14th.
You have now entered THE TWILIGHT ZONE...
... ok that was goofy.
Operation removes lightbulb from anus
This gives a literal meaning to the phrase, "Baati bana k gaand mein de do!" What's worse is I know the doctor. Check it out!
MULTAN, Pakistan (Reuters) - Fateh Mohammad, a prison inmate in Pakistan, says he woke up last weekend with a glass lightbulb in his anus.
Wednesday night, doctors brought Mohammad's misery to an end after a one-and-a-half hour operation to remove the object.
"Thanks Allah, now I feel comfort. Today, I had my breakfast. I was just drinking water, nothing else," Mohammad, a grey-beared man in his mid-40s, told Reuters from a hospital bed in the southern central city of Multan.
"We had to take it out intact," said Dr. Farrukh Aftab at Nishtar Hospital. "Had it been broken inside, it would be a very very complicated situation."
Mohammad, who is serving a four-year sentence for making liquor, prohibited for Muslims, said he was shocked when he was first told the cause of his discomfort. He swears he didn't know the bulb was there.
"When I woke up I felt a pain in my lower abdomen, but later in hospital, they told me this," Mohammad said.
"I don't know who did this to me. Police or other prisoners."
The doctor treating Mohammad said he'd never encountered anything like it before, and doubted the felon's story that someone had drugged him and inserted the bulb while he was comatose.
Monday, July 10, 2006
Horoscope
VIRGO
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Your long-term goals and aspirations are once again in conflict with a partnership issue. You might want to rethink any commitments you are making to people who steer you away from your dreams.
Ouch! What really hurts is that I need a friggin' horoscope to tell me I'm an idiot for throwing my life away!
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Sunday, July 09, 2006
No Pickles, No Mustard?
When searching for a future partner compatibility is key. But how many things is it necessary to agree on? Is it 10/20, 15/20, or closer to 20/20? The basics, of course, being religion, culture, traditional values, and educational background. (let's be real... how many things do brain surgeons have in common with truck drivers? Im not saying its impossible.. just highly unlikely!)
So what else do I need to consider? I'd swap looks for decency, riches for God-fearing, and popularity for security any day of the week. I believe most women think this way, the sincere ones anyway. So why do men get to be superficial and get away with it? Why do men get to be the ones that say they are jerks and we're still supposed to be delighted they even gave us the time and day (for the moment's time and day... cuz God only knows what tomorrow will bring?)
The decision is a toughie, but I still truly believe we're overthinking the situation. We're making it so much more difficult for ourselves. Back in the day, our parents put blind faith in their elders and had their life decisions made for them... and thank Allah (swt) they are still together today. Their relationships have stood the test of time, children, pain, losses, wealth, and poverty.
What lesson havent we learned? We've become too picky, too independent, too self-suficient. We have no room for compromise. Its our way or the highway.
...single by choice not by chance.
Are we really doing ourselves a favor by holding out for the most perfect soulmate or are we just letting ourselves get in the way of our future?
I love pickles, I love mustard. Should that matter too?
I'm at my sisters place with Ali, watching the children while she gets to attend a wedding. Im finally getting a chance at blogging. Too much going on in my life. and DAMMIT I still havent sent my laptop in to be fixed! Can someone just do it for me please?
BTW: I finally burned the clutch on my car! Years and years of constant gear-grinding (on purpose of course... perfection has to choose to make mistakes! jk) Over $900 worth of damage on my car. And I totally understand what "liability" means in terms of insurance. It means I'm getting screwed because nothing is covered on my OWN car. (Ok who put that bitchin' policy together?) So because my car was in the shop I had to get a rental. Do I get hooked up with a hot car? No. Of course not. I end up with scrap metal on wheels: Ford Focus. I was searching around my glove compartment for my rental agreement, eyes closed, because I was afraid of finding a little sign that read: Fisher Price *Warning: Small parts may cause choking in young children. How about WARNING: American cars will induce vomitting to those used to foreign cars. (Fresh off the Boat cars are acceptable!!)
Its an automatic. Ick. Those are the most boring things to drive. I'm not complaining... Im really not. I'm blessed to have something atleast.
So what else do I need to consider? I'd swap looks for decency, riches for God-fearing, and popularity for security any day of the week. I believe most women think this way, the sincere ones anyway. So why do men get to be superficial and get away with it? Why do men get to be the ones that say they are jerks and we're still supposed to be delighted they even gave us the time and day (for the moment's time and day... cuz God only knows what tomorrow will bring?)
The decision is a toughie, but I still truly believe we're overthinking the situation. We're making it so much more difficult for ourselves. Back in the day, our parents put blind faith in their elders and had their life decisions made for them... and thank Allah (swt) they are still together today. Their relationships have stood the test of time, children, pain, losses, wealth, and poverty.
What lesson havent we learned? We've become too picky, too independent, too self-suficient. We have no room for compromise. Its our way or the highway.
...single by choice not by chance.
Are we really doing ourselves a favor by holding out for the most perfect soulmate or are we just letting ourselves get in the way of our future?
I love pickles, I love mustard. Should that matter too?
I'm at my sisters place with Ali, watching the children while she gets to attend a wedding. Im finally getting a chance at blogging. Too much going on in my life. and DAMMIT I still havent sent my laptop in to be fixed! Can someone just do it for me please?
BTW: I finally burned the clutch on my car! Years and years of constant gear-grinding (on purpose of course... perfection has to choose to make mistakes! jk) Over $900 worth of damage on my car. And I totally understand what "liability" means in terms of insurance. It means I'm getting screwed because nothing is covered on my OWN car. (Ok who put that bitchin' policy together?) So because my car was in the shop I had to get a rental. Do I get hooked up with a hot car? No. Of course not. I end up with scrap metal on wheels: Ford Focus. I was searching around my glove compartment for my rental agreement, eyes closed, because I was afraid of finding a little sign that read: Fisher Price *Warning: Small parts may cause choking in young children. How about WARNING: American cars will induce vomitting to those used to foreign cars. (Fresh off the Boat cars are acceptable!!)
Its an automatic. Ick. Those are the most boring things to drive. I'm not complaining... Im really not. I'm blessed to have something atleast.
Monday, July 03, 2006
CAMP-Philadelphia 1st Annual Gala Event
Check out http://www.campnet.net/philadelphia for more information!
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